LOSS COMPANION

I provide in person and remote support to individuals & families as they experience serious illness, or potentially loss of a loved one. There are various support services I offer, including:

o Organizing personal & medical documentation, such as creating a care packet with a timeline of events, medical interventions, and complete medication details.
o Assistance finding possible methods to support day to day functioning, like mobility aids, grounding techniques, support groups, and movement modalities, personalized to your needs.
o Companionship, distraction, and a shoulder to lean on, free of judgement or shame.
o In person support for the every day tasks providing reprieve to those who never get a break.

When managing a serious illness, it is easy for the small things to pile up and become huge pain points. I know ways to help lighten that load so it isn’t something you’re carrying alone.

There are Little t traumas, and Big T Traumas, the main difference between being that after a Big T trauma, nothing is the same ever again. Like certain milestones, afterwards there is no going back to who you were, or how things were, before.

After certain losses, there is no going back to who you were, or how things were, before. These kinds of experiences are ones we will have many times over in our lifetimes. That however, doesn’t make them hurt any less.

Grief is something we all will come across in our lifetimes, yet sadly so many feel lost, or worse yet abandoned in spaces of grief. That feeling of being alone, misunderstood, and isolated in grief, can be unbelievably painful.

Allow me if you will to validate your grief:
You don’t have to just “get over it” or “have a stiff upper lip.” Loss which has touched you deeply, no matter how “small” feeling, is worth mourning.

Some of the most difficult losses to grieve can be that of our own abilities. Learning to live with a new diagnosis or after a health crisis can be feel like a devastatingly long road to be on, and a solitary one.

As someone who first became disabled at 10yrs old, I am all too familiar with this loss. And it represents one of the callings I’ve heard to be here, in this space, offering my support to others. From me to you, it is connection with disabled community which helps lighten the load. I can work with you to set up personalized self care methods, offer advice, support & commiseration about navigating the world as a disabled person, and even help you find community spaces to connect with others who experience similar things as you.

I’ve learned a lot along the way I want to share with you. You don’t have to do this alone.

YOU FEAR TO DIE?

"It's not that I don't want... I mean, I've always...
It's just that life is a habit that's hard to break.”

― Terry Pratchett, Reaper Man

In many ways, fear of loss, our own or loved ones, is simply part of being alive. Something we all share, and that colors all of our actions and decisions in life. That does not mean it is something we all carry the same way, or that it to each of us has the same weight or impact.

If you feel stuck in grief, or are afraid of what hasn’t yet come to pass but one day will, let’s start a dialogue about it. One of the few things I can solidly promise you is compassion & understanding.